We are hard-wired to crave belonging and connection. We want to be in the “in-group.” And when we’re in that inner circle, it feels great. We are known, we are loved, we are supported. But when we’re outside, looking at the inner circle, we may experience doubt in ourselves, loneliness, frustration, and more.
At our Kellogg orientation, one of the speakers implored us to “make our circles permeable.” The in-group often operates from a position of power. And those in power should be accountable for bringing others in.
As an introvert, I’m tempted to keep my circle tight. My program began earlier in the summer, so I have the advantage of a supportive, tight-knit community that was developed during two months when very few people were on campus. That puts me in a position of social power – I already have a sense of belonging. Therefore, I have a responsibility to include others, to create space for them to become known and loved, and to make my circle permeable.
I’m writing this as a way to hold myself accountable to inviting others into my community wherever I am – business school and beyond.
Daily Learnings 